Many readers have questions about the interpretation of DO/7K in a Bazi chart when reading relationships. This is the right time, I think, to post something about this subject. For gentleman the spouse element is Wealth, so this time the post is for the ladies. Hope you guys don’t mind.
If you are not thinking about marriage then DO/7K is also related to authority, courage, job, career, bosses and customers. You can find more details by reading the posts related to these two Ten Gods.
On the other side, if you find relationships with your spouse or boyfriend important then you will want to see DO/7K in your Bazi chart. Is it important to have the two in the same chart? The answer is no. It’s better to have only one of them. Can you imagine having a husband and a boyfriend at the same time? Big confusion, right? 7K refers to boyfriend and when DO is absent, it works as spouse star too. If there are more than one 7K in the chart, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will have many boyfriends but we don’t like to see too many of them because it will unbalance the chart and make you a more aggressive people. Many charts have 3 or more 7K and this will transform in arguments with people around especially if they are next to the DM. Furthermore the chance to have many boyfriends and can’t stick to any of them is high.
The quality of this 7K is also important. It’s more pleasant to have a favourable, strong and healthy 7K but if it is weak or clashed and you are not sure about the strength of the DM, don’t panic. If 7K appears at stem without roots (or very weak roots) and there is no EG around, you can still find your mister right but it may not last. The good side of knowing it is the choices that you can make, like putting some effort to maintain the relationship.
The location inside the chart is also important. If it is too far, it will be hard to access, like you can only see but not touch. The best location is next to the DM at stems, at day branch or even month branch. If 7K doesn’t appear at stem but only at branches, Main-Qi is better than Sub-Qi. Sometimes the Sub-Qi is in storage and not in graveyard, it is still good. If the season supports it, better. In my opinion, spouse element is better hidden at branches and far away from rivals’ eyes so is easier to keep. If 7K appears at month stem and F at year stem, you need to be aware. You may need to fight for your boyfriend. No peace!
In case 7K is combined and able to transform or clashed by EG the chance of a relationship is lower or more challenging. What about no 7K at all in the chart? It’s still possible if 7K appears through LP/AP/MP. It should be strong, appear more than once or supported by wealth element.
When 7K is used as spouse star because DO is absent, you can analyse the two charts together to get more information.
If you have a strong and healthy DO and a very weak and hidden 7K, it should be OK. If DO is far from 7K, it can refers to different relationships in different lifetime. Here with DO we don’t like to see HO around or coming with LP/AP. It will clash and bring problems.
Beside the quality of DO/7K you need to analyse the spouse palace. What is in the day branch? Every element is important. They show the way your spouse is affecting you. For example, if your DM is sit on DR and this DR is favourable to you, it means that your spouse is a resource to you or will support you. If there are three elements (Main and Sub Qi) and they produce each other and finally produce DO, it can be very good. If DM is sit on HO or EG the chances of having a less supporting spouse are high. What we don’t like to see is F inside the spouse palace. A Friend is a rival and when sitting in day branch it can bring the third part in a marriage. The best way to deal with it is not being jealous all the time. You need to keep your spouse close to you and arguing is not a solution. Do your best to make sure that you are always the best choice.
Like 7K if you can’t find DO in your chart, you can look for it in the LP/AP.
This chart belongs to a lady that until age 42 couldn’t find the mister right. She didn’t have a boyfriend either. In her mind, she will be the aunt forever due to a health problem.
Her chart has no DO/7K unless at hour pillar and there is no sign of them during the first three LP. No one in her life!
One day she met a man with her age in a friend’s party. She started dating him and four months later she got pregnant. It was a miracle due to her health condition (she couldn’t conceive). They decided to get married two months later.
During 2014 in the 36 LP her DO appears twice at stem and supported by IW at 36LP and DO at Month branch inside the natal chart, her spouse star became very strong. She met her spouse and got married in the same year (2014). Her son was born in the following year. Is there a sign of it? Yes. In 2015, Yi wood combined with Geng metal (month stem) and is able to transform into HO (metal). HO refers to a son for ladies.
She did what she thought was impossible.
21 thoughts on “DO 7K & Relationships”
I always look forward to your articles!
If there’s only one DO at the stem (month branch) and it’s not rooted, does it mean that it’s weak?
What combination produces DO as I won’t be seeing the Metal LP till I’m 82 😦
Look for the season. Is DO favoured by the season? If your DO is metal so is there any earth element in the same pillar? Or neighbours?
Check the post about strength of elements ( set 2019) and the cheat cheets at Resources. you will find more explanations.
Another great insight!
This is my achilles heel. No DO, 7k in Sub qui in year and hour pillar and EG (clashing DO/7k) in spouse pillar… challenging. Even when they came in year or lucky pillar no use for me because is in DE. I try to feel this as something that only need a bigger effort from me, but sometimes (like the moment i’m living now) is very very hard to keep hope. Almost 40 years, no relathionship, a lot of disappointments…
I’m struggling with the idea of not have someone to share my life with. I have to change something only didn’t found out what yet
First thing you have to do is to accept. Accept this situation not as a punishment but as a condition to do what you have to do. Think about it.
Yes, Thank you for the kindness. That’s what i’ve been trying to do.
Still didn’t figure out “what I have to do” 😉
Hi Lifesglance Shifu!
Thank you for sharing your bazi knowledge with readers! I’m new to bazi and after reading many of your articles in this website, it makes me understand more! However, i still have some doubts! I’m uncertain whether 7K/DO in my chart is in good quality or not! Could you briefly explain me the quality of 7K/DO in my chart please?
Hour Day Month Year
丙 丁 壬 乙
午 丑 午 亥
丁 己 辛 己 癸 丁 己 壬 甲
I have 7K , 2 DO and 3 EG in my chart. Shifu, please help interpret! 🙇
Hi Jolie. 丁 in the peak of summer is strong even lacking strong resource to support. Strong DM favours DO/7K but since IR revealed, DO/7K will not only clash DM but also enhance IR. Being it unfavourable to strong DM, it will affect your emotional well being.
Water DO/7K in the season of summer is not strong but DO reveals and have roots. In terms of spouse star, it is good. However there is EG inside spouse palace making relationships more challenging.
Find your DO LP, if it is strong and well protected, it will support your DO/7K.
It’s such a long explanation! Shifu, thank you so much for your kindness! I’m truly grateful to you! 🙇🙇🙇
Good learnings 😉
Hi, Master. “Find your DO LP”.. DO LP is better in stem or branch? Or should we consider HHS, too?
How about if DM get married before enter DO LP, how the outcome when enter DO LP?
DO needs to be strong, if appears at stem is visible for everyone, if hidden it will be hard to identify for others, but the only one who needs to know is you (or it can be a secret relationship that can’t be public). What is important here, DO should be strong (have roots or reveal and supported)not clashed or not suffering negative combos.The better quality it has the better the future relationship.
If DM get married before enter DO LP, it can be good or bad depending on the pillars (6 or even 8 pillars together) but when DO LP appears and it’s of good quality the relationship can see a boost.
Hi master, if a lady Ren Chen DM has DO month stem and 7K in hour stem, does this mean she prefers 7K over DO as her spouse? Thanks.
DO will always be the spouse and 7K the boyfriend, especially when they both appear in the chart. She will torn between the two but may be feeling is stronger for the 7K. 7K at spouse palace means that there is a thirth part in this marriage. Although this is true in a chart reading, that doesn’t necessarily mean that she will have extramarital affair. Since they are located at different pillars, it can also mean different periods of life.
Thank you for the answer. Do you mean third party for the female (as for the thirth word)? If 7K has hidden roots in the other pillars other than the DM, would that mean hidden relationships with others romantically or not romantically?
Third party, sorry. When you read a chart, take into account all the possible meaning of a Ten God. 7K also means guts, courage, go-get-it attitude, aggressiveness, “bad” boss, issues with authority or superior and so on. When it appears in the chart, it only means the possibility of issues related to those matters or people are higher. For events to take place it will need a Luck Pillar that brings the same Ten Gods or other that will enhance those inside the chart and they cannot be exclusively related with boyfriend.
Being hidden it only means that others don’t see. They will notice when this 7K protrude (reveal through a incoming stem). Hidden agenda is related to combinations between hidden elements.
Hi Lifeglance, thank you so much for writing this post! It has definitely shed some lights. I’m a girl who doesn’t have luck in love. It’s either the other half don’t share the same interest as me, or he is abusive, or I am the third party. I feel very gloomy to not able to find the right one. I do hope that I can find my true love some day, but it’s sad to see again I have a Friend star (Main Qi) and DO (Sub Qi) in my spouse palace.
Is that mean even if I got married, my husband might have an affair with my friend? 😥
Below is my bazi:
An hidden relationship is possible for the spouse and it is not due to the F star in day branch but it doesn’t necessarely mean affair. He can also have a strong relation with parents or siblings that disturb you for example. Indeed a F is not a good star to have in spouse palace.
Hi Lifesglance Master!
Thank you very much for sharing your bazi knowledge. I’m new to bazi, this article has give me some ideas on the DO/7K. However, I have some doubts and worries! I am still uncertain whether the quality of my 7K/DO is good or not? Could you briefly explain me the quality of 7K/DO in my chart please?
Hour Day Month Year
庚 （正财） 丁 丙 (劫财） 辛 （偏财）
子 丑 申 (DE) 未
癸 辛 己 癸 戊 庚 壬 丁 己 乙
I have 2 7K , DO, HO, F and 2 EG in my chart. Please help interpret! 🙇
Your 7K doesn’t appears at stems but there is a combination even not able to transform that will give presence to 7k. We can see 7k at branches with 2 more combinations without transformation. In the autumn season, water is not weak. There are no clashes (you have to check the LP & AP). So your 7K can be qualify as moderately strong.
Thank you very much Lifesglance master.
Does this mean the EG has no affects on my 7K. I should consider 7K as my spouse star instead.
My current LP is
7k is consider as spouse star if you don’t have DO. But you have it in your month branch. Your 7K is qualify as moderately strong but that doesn’t mean that EG has no effects on it. Think about time flow. Your natal chart is always the same but every minute, day, month, year, energy changes and you need to look at those pillars and the influence they have to your chart. Read every pillars together.