Ten Gods

比(肩) Friend

比 Friend star is the Ten God with the same element and polarity then the Day Master.

A friend is someone that can help us, support us, lend a shoulder to lean on, and who we can count on. But this friend probably knows us well and also shares the good and the bad things in our life. This means that is possible to compete with us or even try to replace us.

For some Day Masters, friends are good to have. Day Masters like 乙Yi Wood, as flower generally needs company, 戊Wu Earth, Ji Earth, as mountains and sand/soil are the bigger the stronger, Ren Water and Gui Water, as water is also stronger in a huge amount like rivers, waterfalls or oceans.

But for the others like Bing Fire and Jia Wood Day Masters, since Bing represent the sun, another sun will rob his brilliance and Jia as a tree wouldn’t like another tree to compete for the soil, the water, the nutrients and the sunlight, especially if the other tree is taller.

However, it is important to remember that Friend is only really important for weak Day Masters, as it will increase his strength.

If there are HO/EG in the natal chart, friend star can be used to produce them, otherwise it is not a good companion for a strong Day Master.

F star represents our friends and siblings of the same gender, our fans or even other people like us. For a weak DM it will enhance the strength to control the wealth element. So it also represents wealth for the DM.

When F star is strong and rooted, the Day Master is usually a “do-it-yourself” type, with strong will power, with great inner strength and also very independent, self assured, with no complexes.

If the F star is weak and also not rooted, the Day Master can denote poor social skills, can be very narcissist, stubborn with an inflexible thinking and deeply unsecure.

Now let’s try to understand how F star will influence one’s chart. If the DM is weak, then F is favourable and if we can find them at the chart, revealed and rooted, it means that friendship is very important and useful to the DM. Friends will be around and will let a hand when the DM needs. If the F stars are weak, not rooted or not revealed, it means that the DM will have a hard time to find helpful people and most of the time, will feel lost. If there are resource elements that can support the F, DM will be more protected and in terms of wealth, the more protected the DM is, the wealthier the DM can be.

For those who are strong DM, a strong F star can represent rivals, harmful friends, loss of money, unavoidable expenses, downturn of success, of fame or of recognition, and in some cases, illness. A strong DM is already strong and don’t really need more support, so it is important to maintain the F star as weak as possible. When this F star become too strong either by the numbers of F stars presents or by the enhancement from the resource elements, the DM can fall ill and mostly is related to its element (wood, fire,…) and can be serious. (More about elements and diseases)

What about a strong DM sit on F and with Companion stars revealed in the natal chart? Be it F or RW, they are Companion stars and when they are not favourable and not usable, friends will still be one of most important matter in this DM’s life. Because they are always around and seem to be important, they can exert a big influence but actually they can ruin the DM life. Once I met a little friend who was fond to be with his friends. Each time the phone rang and a friend asked for a favour, he didn’t think twice and would always lend a hand even if it harms. From his parents point of view, it was very worrisome.

 

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19 thoughts on “比(肩) Friend”

    1. With strong friend stars, one will like companion and social life but if it is unfavourable and too strong, it will denotes stubborn personality. May be you don’t ask for help due to your stuborness.
      Infidelity will depends on the position of the friend stars in the chart. In your case and suposing that you are a lady your DM is between your spouse and your girl friends(rivals) and there are no friend stars at the spouse palace. All this will make the chances lower.

      1. Hello,
        I am a male, how do i determine the strength of strong friend stars? will your reply still apply if I am a male? making chance lower? Friends is my parallel star and it has appeared across my month pillar (heavenly stem, earthly branch & hidden stem), will that suppress my wealth element (also my spouse star), i read somewhere that having 比肩 in excess will jinx spouse…

      2. The strength of the elements is determined by the season, roots and the element that produce it (its own resource). If in the season and with strong roots or/and there are elements that enhance it, then it is strong.
        ” i read somewhere that having 比肩 in excess will jinx spouse…” I’m affraid this is true. Be aware of it and try to change your behaviour. If you have self control you can overcome it.

    1. Strong but unfavourable F star in the month pillar would lead to you focus on your friends rather than on your work. But for sure you are surrounded by friends in your workplace.

  1. Hello, please do not approve this post, I hope that you can delete my previous posts with my email – klheykl@gmail.com since I realised I wrongly indicated my email on the name field instead of the email field, and I’m rather concerned for my email privacy..

  2. With friend star appearing in the day branch,what does it signify about my spouse,birth info:28 April 2001 at 3pm

    1. Friend = sibbling/friend (same gender as DM).F sitting at spouse palace can bring a mutual friend of the couple. On the other hand, it can show a spouse that is your real good friend.

  3. Hello Shifu,

    Not sure what context KL are talking of, if DM is strong, and there are friend stars in stem and branch, and is subject to combination, will it loosen the unfavourable qualities of excess friend stars?

    How do we tell whether the friends star will be rooted?

    By the way, if male DM is sitting on FR and RW, what is the meaning of FR and RW in spouse palace of man??

    For lady I know RW is the desire to upgrade while FR is don’t want to lose out.. What about man?

    Thank you

    Binu H

    1. Combinations and clashes will always weaken the elements involved.
      Friends stars are rooted when they appear at hidden stems, inside de branches. Ex. If the DM is Ding Fire and there are Horse, Sheep or Dog at the branches then Ding is rooted. It can also have roots through Bing Fire but it will not be so strong.
      DM can’t be sitting on both F & RW, only one of them. F at spouse palace of a man means friends or siblings (males) that have good relationships with his spouse. RW at his spouse palace can mean friends or siblings (female) with relationships with his spouse or his wife is actually a good friend to him. In terms of business, it can mean that his wife can turn his partner (middle age).

  4. if self element appears in the spouse palace (friend star) what does it mean for a strong day master?for example yin metal rooster.

  5. Que significa tener fuego yin en hora, dia y mes y una cabra en la hora soy dia maestro equilibrado . Muchas gracias

      1. Balanced master day is when it changes over time from weak to strong depending on the years and the elements were born on 7/5/1968 at 15:15 in spain

      2. Hi Susana. One thing you have to remember, the strength of the DM will not change over the time. Even when LPs come and enhance or weaken DM, the reading will not change. You will not swing between strong and weak DM. It has to be determined when analysing the natal chart. A LP can strengthen a DM and this DM can enjoy this period but some charts can’t stand this because a favourable element, when become too strong can bring problems (health issues) or negative characters can show up.

  6. Hi, Master. How about if heavenly stem and earthly branch don’t have friend star, but DM rooted in month hidden stem. Can it be considered as strong friend star?

    Thanks.

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